Claudia Dressel

Taking myself as an example, I probably would not be a person, even though my parents matter to me tremendously, I probably won't be the person to do their direct care and to assist them with instrumental activities of daily living.

Because there is too much of a conflict there.

I value being there for my parents.

And at the same time, my job matters to me a lot.

And now I'm here 4,000 miles away.

It turns out that when you make a choice to do one thing, you often can't do all the other things.

So how I can be there for them differs.

By my context.

In the summers, I can spend time with them and I can be much more pragmatically involved and work remotely.

So what can you actually do?

What would you be willing to do in the service of what matters to you?

Right.

Yes, you have somebody else in your home.

Yes.

Absolutely.

A lot of people start caregiving because of a sense of duty or obligation.

And at the same time, people are not prepared that caregiving can be longer than caregiving for a child.

And so part of what we need to do is really kind of figure out how

How sustainable are things in the long run?

How will relationships be actually okay?