Claudia Dressel

How can you maximize the relationship with your mother-in-law?

Because it seems that kind of suffers from arguing.

If you ask her, she probably wants to have great relationships with the three of you.

The question is how to actually make that happen.

So over the long term, it works.

Is there sadness about trying so hard and not making it work?

But if we were working together, I would actually put, I'm polluting this precious time with my shit.

I would put that right now up on the whiteboard.

Because there's so much judgment of you are the odd person out.

Everybody can live with this arrangement and I'm the one who is just fucking it up.

We would put that thought on the whiteboard to actually then actively start working on that one and thinking about how useful it is and diffusing it.

So there's a process that is called cognitive diffusion.

What's that?

This idea of taking away the strength of the words.

The impact.

Saying it in a Mickey Mouse voice.

Literally saying it in a Mickey Mouse voice.

Not believing yourself when you say it.

Because it seems like you are really trying so hard.

And your conclusion is because you're still feeling badly about it, you're not trying hard enough.