Codie Sanchez

And I always like to do it this way and say, hey, I don't know if you're open to feedback, but if you are, have a little thing that I think might be helpful for you.

Who's going to say no to that?

Very few people.

So you say they say, OK, yeah.

You say, well, I've noticed that the way that you've treated Samantha kind of demoralizes her.

Yeah.

And it doesn't seem like it's working.

And I only know that because it's happened a few times to me, too.

I think that it might be more helpful if you did it like this.

Are you open to trying a different way?

And what you're doing right then?

You're sandwiching the tough feedback with two open-ended questions that are very kind and hard to say no to.

If they say no, you say, that's not for me.

Or you do, like one of the things my mentors taught me back in the day, if they say no, you do something very simple, which is, you know what?

That doesn't work for me.

And a lot of times, there's not a way to argue for that doesn't work for me.

And so you might have to leave.

You might have to change.

But you might also be shocked how often it works.

Yeah.