Coleman Ruiz

adaptive side of it um because the pain is just so extreme and um but i was able to back away from it and then over i'm so grateful to so many of my friends i can't imagine how many hours if we collect up those hours how much time i spent with them on the phone um and one of my in the like in those really hard weeks maybe a little bit after that injury one of my buddies was actually just talking to him yesterday because i had time in the car um

The tough love side of it, when you're feeling that poorly, is a little tricky.

I probably wouldn't deliver tough love unless I really thought the person could handle it.

I think you got to really deal with kid gloves at those moments.

But one of my buddies told me, if you do something to hurt yourself, you will have proven to every person who knows you that you are a fucking liar and a fraud.

Everything you've been about your whole life is a fraud.

And Andrew, we were on the phone.

I was like, whoa, my God.

He just went 10 ring.

I mean, dead center.

And that was a pivot.

Like that really helped me a lot.

I think you might've also told me to outsource my identity.

And that helped a lot because it was that idea of you have foggy goggles.

You're clearly like not on stable ground.

Everything you believe about yourself, just let it be the spokes of a wheel that somebody else can hold for you for a period of time.

I was like, well, I can do that.

And then my other buddy, I didn't wanna be a liar and a fraud.

I was like, I can do that.

And, you know, a few friends just did the basics, Andrew, which was –