Colman Noctor

And then it would majority, depending on the child.

So the younger the child, the more heavily involved the parents would be.

So if you have a child who's six, seven, eight, you'd be doing maybe 70% of the work with the parents and 30 with the child.

And then as they get older, that percentage decreases.

So with a 17 year old, you might be doing 90% of the work with the child and 10 with the parents.

For sure.

And it's like we talked about before, trying to create an understanding of the child's experience for the parents.

So when he's doing that...

it looks like he's just being bold, but maybe he's looking to be heard.

Maybe he's trying to be seen.

Maybe look at it from this perspective.

When he's doing that and punching his brother, that's because he's looking for visibility.

And it's about maybe trying to get ahead of that.

And so you're trying to create a better understanding of the child's difficulties for the parent's perspective.

And naturally, they will learn ways to better respond to the child.

So maybe punishment and sanction isn't the best way to go.

And you're trying to

establish what a child is unable to do and what they're unwilling to do.

So say, for example, a child who struggles with homework and are they struggling because they're being defiant and because they're being lazy?

Or are they struggling because