Colman Noctor

Their concentration issues are because they can't manage it or they're overwhelmed or they're overstimulated.

And so you're trying to get the parent to be able to better decipher which is unwilling and which is unable and respond in accordance to that.

And that's the holy grail of parenting, really.

Yeah.

Because if you're making a child do something that they can't do, the impact is fairly devastating.

I always use the example of if I can't see the blackboard from 20 metres, it doesn't matter how many times you shout at me, I still can't see it.

I just need to be moved closer to the board.

But if somebody is willfully being difficult and for no other reason other than they're trying to be difficult, then...

An arm around the shoulder might not be required in that.

It might be more a directive piece of advice or a nudge or even a sanction and discipline and these sorts of things that are required.

But when that's misplaced, when you're making a child who's unwilling and facilitating them, that's problematic.

And a child who's unable that you're forcing to do something, that's problematic too.

No.

I thought so.

Straight away, yeah.

And again, it's such a kind of natural thing to... Like, say, for example, if you're talking about someone in a tantrum, like, parents normally do all the wrong things.

Like, so you don't suggest bad behaviour.

So you don't say, don't you dare pick that up now and throw that at me.

You know what I mean?

Because that... Or, you know...