Congresswoman Sara Jacobs

And this was one of the most important ways of doing that for myself.

I totally agree with that.

And I feel like the times when I feel the most out of control or like the most upset about things is when I'm in what my therapist would call like a crouching position, when it feels like things are happening to me that I don't get a say in.

And one of the most important things you need to do is push through that crouching position, push through that feeling that you don't get a say in your life and

and get to a place of agency because we do get a say in our lives.

And like most type A oldest daughters, honor student, right?

Like I thought there was a path I had to follow and that if I did all the right things that I had to do, and then you get the A plus at the end.

But

That's not actually how life works.

There is no path.

And I've worked really hard on trying to get out of this idea of what I should be doing and try and really focus on what do I want to be doing?

What is aligned with my values?

What actually feels fulfilling?

Not what do I think I should be doing because that's what society or whatever is.

told me to do.

And I think a lot of women feel that way about having a family, right?

There's so much messaging and pressure on women right now to have a family and to do it early, whether that's all of our social media or messaging.

And this was one way that I could break through that noise for myself and try and get out of that crouching position and remind myself that I get a say in this.

I don't have to do things the way society says I should.

Look, I think it was a big sacrifice to make.