Connell Barrett

And the other thing I like about this, this breaks a rule that you might have heard about openers.

He's moving things toward a date.

He's showing intentionality.

Now, I'm normally not going to have one of my clients ask a woman out, or I'm not normally going to advise you to ask a woman out in the very first message, but there are exceptions to every rule.

And to be honest, I would rather you ask a woman out too quickly than wait too long.

So many women are really tired of playing pen pals with a guy.

And so what this

But what this fellow did with his three body problem opener is he let her know he's got intentionality.

Women love a guy with intentionality, but he gave value first.

Okay.

What I would not endorse is, oh, hey there, do you want to go on a date?

So we can talk about books.

That's not leading with value.

You've got to lead with value.

And what I like about what he did here is he personalized this to her.

Obviously, this woman mentioned reading the three-body problem.

And so he connected with her and then said, basically, cutting to the chase, hey, let's get together and geek out about books.

I'm not sure, but I would imagine she might have said yes.

uh okay next up here's the next opener so tell me about yourself that's the opener so tell me about yourself ugh totally ugh that's like 50 shades of meh right there it's basically a job interview opener very common so tell me about you what are you up to how have you been where'd you go to college you don't want your opener to sound like a job interview

It's like if you're going to open with, so tell me about yourself, you may as well follow up with, here's my 401k plan for you and here are the health benefits of dating me.