Connell Barrett

I'm not the first coach to say this, but physical slash nonverbal expressiveness, physical touch,

But it's not just about physicality.

It's about the way you use your eyes and your voice.

Think about it.

You're listening to this podcast, right?

I'm saying to you, if I say to you, my guy listener, boy, it sure is hot in here.

I'm not flirting with you.

Probably.

But if I say on a date, boy, it sure is getting hot in here.

The way you use your voice with a woman changes the meaning.

So it's not just breaking the touch barrier, which I know you've heard from other gurus.

It's about physicality, but also nonverbal expressiveness, eye contact.

body language, and the way you use your voice.

So the story that my mind jumps to, I used to be really afraid to make any kind of physical move on a date.

I thought it was creepy to touch a woman.

Up until the first kiss, which I was afraid to even go for until maybe

really good first date or at the end of a second date up until then I wouldn't even touch a woman I would figuratively sit on my hands for two or three hours and then wonder why she didn't want to see me or why she said I didn't feel a connection and a couple little physical

training wheels really helped me that you might want to try out.

In fact, I gave this tip to my client Trevor.

I had a client Trevor years ago who came to me because he was stuck in the friend zone and I said, think of physical expressiveness like walking up little stair steps.