Connell Barrett

You obviously don't want to

grab and grope at a woman right away when you meet her.

Of course, that's just common sense, but nor do you want to not touch her and treat her like she's your sister or your cousin for the whole date.

That's not going to help.

That's putting you in the friend zone category.

The sweet spot is think of physical, physical expression as a stair step.

So Trevor had a first date and I said, yeah, give her a, give her a quick hug.

Hello.

That helps at the start, just a warm hug.

10, 15 minutes in, they were vibing about something they agreed on.

He gave her a high five.

And I remember he told me, Connell, this was the best moment.

We're sitting next to each other.

And she threw her leg up over mine, really casually just throwing her leg up over mine.

And I felt like, oh my God, it's like we're a couple.

We just look like we were together.

So just a little bit of light physical expression helped Trevor, and I believe her name is Becca, have a really great first date.

And he finally snapped out of the friend zone and they dated for a while.

I don't think they became boyfriend, girlfriend, but he had a really wonderful first date win.

And what helped him do that with Becca is thinking of like stair-step escalation.