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An hour in, 90 minutes in, they were all over each other.

They had a really good kiss.

I think she was even sitting on his lap at one point, and they were getting all these looks from people in the bar saying, get a room, get a room, guys.

And it all happened because he was willing to just understand that physical and nonverbal expressiveness is a level of flirting that you want to get competent at.

And it's level five, level five.

Here's a quick review before I wrap things up here with level six.

So again, level one, play.

Level two, clear statements of romantic interest.

Level three, playful banter.

Level four, emotional connection.

Level five, physical slash nonverbal.

Are you noticing that chronologically this is basically the order that these physical escalations would happen in a typical first date?

Not always.

It's not perfect.

Dating can be chaotic and any rules can be broken.

But think about it.

You'll start off with light playfulness, having a nice, light, playful vibe.

You might give her a compliment early on in the date, that clear interest.

A little banter is good in the first part of the date.

Then we want to let go of some of that as the date goes on and be more vulnerable, more real, emotional connection, level four.