Connell Barrett

What do you think?

One's committed and one isn't.

So you want to be fully committed or else you're going to end up being committed because you're never going to find a girlfriend.

So something I learned from one of my coaches that I still quote him and tell my clients these days is what you think is risky in terms of making a romantic move

If it feels risky, then it's actually safe and smart because you're really going for it.

But playing it safe is highly risky.

I was playing it safe by giving her my Starbucks card, my business card.

You play it safe by...

Just asking women boring questions when you approach instead of really telling her why you want to talk to her.

So what's risky is safe and what's safe is risky in terms of making moves.

And one of the ways we make women feel icky is to do a half-hearted move like I did.

Okay, here's story number five.

This one I want to give the nuance here because this involves sex or at least the hope of sex.

I approached a woman once.

really pretty brunette.

I remember very confident, very much my type, bantery, witty.

She was funny.

We had a pretty good chemistry.

I approached her at a club here in New York City.

We exchanged numbers.