Connell Barrett

Keep the simple rule in mind.

What you're thinking and feeling is what you're saying and doing.

Just make sure it's G-rated, okay?

What you're thinking and feeling as long as it's not vulgar.

Okay, let's go to level three, which is personally my favorite flirting level of all these, banter.

Banter.

Banter, fun, flirty banter on a date or in any part of dating, texting, when you approach.

Banter is a playful back and forth between the two of you that might involve jokes, light topics, teasing, puns, just basically cracking jokes, shooting the shit back and forth.

That's banter.

Now, and it builds chemistry.

because it takes the two of you out of your logical analytical heads and just gets you into the moment feeling fun, loose, playful vibes, right?

And that's why it works.

It creates tension.

It creates an unpredictability in a good way, like a variety.

Like, where is this conversation going to go next?

We're bouncing around from different topics.

Think rom-com movie characters, right?

There's a reason why every rom-com movie, the two leads are bantering back and forth because that's a core part of flirting.

And that's how it looks.

Now, what most guys do is they just don't know how to banter, so they don't even try.