Connell Barrett

A cat calling dude says,

yells toward her hey baby i like the way you walk and i heard that i made eye contact with her she understood what was happening here and i walked over and said hey i just want to apologize for my dad he does not know how to talk to to women just in the moment right and she threw her head back laughed she was and she said you're way better at hitting on girls than he is

And she was smiling ear to ear.

We stood and talked for about 10 minutes.

And we were on a date two nights later.

Two nights later, we went to an improv show on our first date and had a great time.

And we ended up becoming boyfriend-girlfriend.

Her name is Catherine.

Hi, Catherine, if you're listening.

And what an amazing moment that was for me.

That was powerful for me because I realized...

The big truth I realized was that you might think that you, quote, can't approach a woman because it's uncomfortable.

You can.

You simply decide to.

You make an adult decision using good old-fashioned courage.

I was actually pretty nervous as I walked up to her, but I did it anyway.

And I could have approached that girl at Starbucks a few years earlier, but I chose not to.

And that's the takeaway I want to give you with this first make or break moment is you can decide to approach any woman you want to.

any time you can't decide it's going to feel good you can't decide you won't be nervous you can't certainly can't know for sure that it will turn into a phone number or a date but that's a make-or-break moment and you're in control of it okay you can decide to talk to any woman you want to and had I not walked up to cat that day I would have lost out on this really great sweet warm beautiful

Young woman who became my girlfriend for about six months.