Connell Barrett

That is not the lesson.

No bueno.

That's not what I teach.

However, the reason that worked with Becca and it did work was that she basically said, okay, finally a guy who's not afraid to tell the truth to me, who's not afraid to take a risk, a social risk for the betterment of the date.

He also did other good things on the date.

He was a little bit teasing, a little bit snarky, and also very sincere and genuine.

And he let her know when the time was right that he thought she was really sexy and cute.

So he was turning up these man-to-woman dials.

By the end of their date, Becca was sitting on Trevor's lap.

They were kissing, making out.

This was at a bar.

Excuse me.

This is at a, as I understand it, like a kind of a small corner candlelit bar, corner bar in a neighborhood in New York City.

This is not like a club at 1 a.m.

on a Saturday.

It's like date night on a Thursday night.

They're making out.

She's sitting on his lap.

And then she asks him out for the second date.

And their second date was a couple's massage.