Dalia Feldheim
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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Those were question number one and number two, determining your happiness. And I know it's harder today when sometimes we're remotely or work in remote teams, but investing in getting to know your colleagues as people, as human beings. I mean, I remember my days, right? We used to go rollerblading in the parking and water skiing and bringing our husbands and children. And it's so, so important.
So really creating that bond where you know someone very deeply in your workplace, that's kind of critical. And then the fifth one I talk about is positivity. And when I say positivity, it's not about being happy, happy all the time. That's really important, okay? There's no such thing of being happy. It's really the importance of accepting our negative emotions.
My professor, Tal Ben-Shachar, calls it the permission to be human. Because who doesn't have sad emotions? Psychopaths or dead people, right? So if you're sad, that's good news. So I think the first thing is really to realize it's okay not to be okay. As a leader, you know, understanding, making space for your people to grieve, to take the time
Sometimes we're in a low space and we just need the time for that. And then as a leader, there's something that's called the upward spiral of positivity. Once you accept the negative emotions, okay, I am frustrated. I am sad. I am disappointed. You name them, you tame them. Then you can start looking at how you build hope. how you build gratitude.
Gratitude is really focusing on what we have versus what we don't have. And, you know, that's another super, super simple strategy that's proven, you know, spending five minutes a day in a state of gratitude completely alters your well-being. So, you know, I have in my bathroom a little sticker that says gratitude.
And every time I brush my teeth, I spend like those three minutes or two minutes, you know, just saying what I'm grateful for and really recognizing it's not reaching the goals. your goals that makes you happy. It's important to realize that. Setting goals is really important. I'm a very goal-oriented person.
But it's not reaching the goals that will make you happy because you just reach the summit and then you see the next summit, right? It's this climb towards those goals. It's the progress that you're making. So take a moment to, you know, see the view. I always say, have an idea of where you're heading, but don't forget to enjoy the view on the way. And that's key.
So, you know, purpose and strengths, perseverance and growth mindset, physical wellness, which is all around taking care of yourself, putting your mask, your oxygen mask, so you can take care of others, the importance of people and getting to know them as human beings, and then positivity, which is all around health. accepting negative emotions and then looking into gratitude.
So there's quite a bit that we can do, as you can see. Right. And it's actually a beautiful journey. So I've been on this journey of positive psychology. And I and as I mentioned, I realized that my intuition about leadership is grounded in research and there to lead like a girl is it's a provocation. there's no such thing as a masculine brain or a feminine brain. Okay.
We all have masculine leadership traits and feminine leadership traits. The issue is that the business world has collapsed into wounded masculine power over people versus power with people. So we feel like we either need to behave like that, or we sink into our wounded feminine being defensive, et cetera. And I think
What I'm provoking is for all leaders to connect to those more historically feminine traits like empathy, intuition, teamwork, you know, all these five P's that I mentioned in order to balance out the world and basically to humanize the workplace. And we're seeing if we will humanize the workplace, everyone wins.
Oh, everywhere. I mean, it's Amazon, Barnes & Noble. I mean, all the indie stores. Just look there to Lead Like a Girl, Dalia Feldheim. And I will mention that I decided to dedicate all profit to women causes around the world. So I have a Lead Like a Girl school in India. And, you know, I teach Lead Like a Girl programs across the globe.
So I've decided, you know, let's give back exactly with that spirit. And I do help that, first of all, you know, it will help women and men. And I can tell you, I'll just finish with this funny story as an anecdote. I had... Women call me to say thank you that they decided to step up, to dare to do something.
I had men calling me, you know, I talk about emotions and the importance of emotions that recognize, you know, a woman cried in their office and they suddenly had a, what to answer them. They said, wow, I see you're really passionate. How can I help? Right? But the most craziest call is I got a guy in Australia who called me and he said, Dalia, I watched your TED talk.
I just wanted to tell you, I'm a reformed asshole. I want to change. What do I do? So that's incredible. I even added into the book. If you go onto my website, if you have a boss that may enjoy reading the book, I'm going to send a hundred books a year free anonymously because I am on a mission. I am on a mission to humanize the workplace. And I think we know the world needs it.
We know employees are dying and crying, right? With stress and burnout and, And we know we have a way of turning it around. So that's why I feel really strongly about the mission of spreading how to lead like a girl.
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