Damien Hughes

I remember reading a book years ago where it said, would you swap...

Like your life with Warren Buffett's wealth and it was like, and most people go, yeah, yeah, I'd love that wealth.

But you'd now have to be 96.

So to have his wealth, you have to accept that you're now 96.

Do you think Warren Buffett would swap with you at 48?

And most people go, of course Warren Buffett would swap with you because the most valuable thing you have is time.

It's like, would you like me to give you 100 million quid?

Yeah, but I love that idea because that's just a simple tweak, isn't it?

That's just the idea of, like, when Sarah Pascal told us that lovely idea that she went from being paranoid to pronoid.

She was believing everyone was out to hate her to then going, everyone's out to love me, everyone's out to help me, everyone's out to...

enjoy my material and just that one tweak and telling the story in her own head differently allowed her to go on stage and be authentically herself so most of most of our life is spent getting in our own way tripping ourselves up so this ability to tell a better story

And that includes the story of what happens when we cross that finish line.

Yeah, the happiest people we know are the ones that are driven intrinsically.

So this goes back to the research we've quoted numerous times on the pod from two guys called Richard Ryan and Edward Deasy.

They were psychologists at Rochester University in the 70s and 80s.

And they looked at a concept called the self-determination theory.

So how do you keep your motivation high even when the external rewards aren't necessarily as prolific?

And what they found is

Self-determination theory says, first of all, it's about having control or autonomy in their language.

Then it's this idea of mastery, the idea of just wanting to be really good at something that matters to you.