Dan Harris

I have a really –

mixed relationship with this idea of optimization.

I am naturally somebody who wants to track my sleep and count my steps and all that stuff, but I think it's a really tricky thing to do without driving yourself crazy.

There's a great expression, the subtle aggression of self-improvement.

I think, however, if you can switch the motivation to, and I'm going to use a loaded word, but if you switch the motivation to love, it just becomes simpler.

So one of the things that I've gotten into the habit of saying throughout the day before I meditate or before I exercise or before I go to bed is, and this is a little kind of off-brand in its earnestness, but I'm doing this, fill in the blank, exercise, whatever.

so that I can be stronger and happier, so that I can make other people stronger and happier.

That tweak to my motivation... Yeah, it's not just about you.

Yes, it is about me.

It's cool.

I think it's totally fine.

Self-love is really important.

In fact, I think it's the unlock for a whole spiral of benefits because how we are with ourselves...

inexorably redounds to how we are with other people.

And so if you can take care of yourself, that's not self-indulgence and it's not weakness.

Um, so yeah, that's, that's kind of how I think about it.

And I, I, on the show that the spirit very much is, look, this is a menu, not a to-do list.

We're going to explore all these things, but you should take what you want.

Like, uh, whatever works for you is, is cool.

Like, uh, there's,