Dan Savage

Because you have an infant, you have a one-year-old a year, nine months ago and change you and your husband decided scramble your DNA together and have a baby. And so the stakes are really high here.

Because you have an infant, you have a one-year-old a year, nine months ago and change you and your husband decided scramble your DNA together and have a baby. And so the stakes are really high here.

It's not just about you and not just about your husband, not just about you two as a couple, as a going concern, but you two as parents who have taken on together consciously the awesome responsibility of seeing this kid through to self-sufficiency. Having an infant, I think it's a really great opportunity

It's not just about you and not just about your husband, not just about you two as a couple, as a going concern, but you two as parents who have taken on together consciously the awesome responsibility of seeing this kid through to self-sufficiency. Having an infant, I think it's a really great opportunity

statement about who your husband is that he and you two together have made the time for you to go out there and Do burlesque and get back in touch with your body and I think it's great. I think it's really imperative for parents even new parents not to lose their sense of themselves and their individuality in their identities as Parents, I think it makes parents better

statement about who your husband is that he and you two together have made the time for you to go out there and Do burlesque and get back in touch with your body and I think it's great. I think it's really imperative for parents even new parents not to lose their sense of themselves and their individuality in their identities as Parents, I think it makes parents better

calmer, more confident, loving, and attentive parents to their children when they still have some time off alone or together. But an infant, a one-year-old, you're still in that really high pressure, high intensity relay race stage, right? of parenting where this kid is with one or the other or both of you at all times.

calmer, more confident, loving, and attentive parents to their children when they still have some time off alone or together. But an infant, a one-year-old, you're still in that really high pressure, high intensity relay race stage, right? of parenting where this kid is with one or the other or both of you at all times.

And one or the other or both of you together need to be paying attention, taking care of the kid. And it's like a baton that's constantly being passed back and forth. And it's really stressful. And so I just, I worry for the kid that if you march in there and give your husband the speech, I want to eat some pussy. There are some sexual adventures that I want to have.

And one or the other or both of you together need to be paying attention, taking care of the kid. And it's like a baton that's constantly being passed back and forth. And it's really stressful. And so I just, I worry for the kid that if you march in there and give your husband the speech, I want to eat some pussy. There are some sexual adventures that I want to have.

But I want to go on together with you, including going to this place that you just told me you're kind of squicked out by. Even if there's a low probability of that conversation ending in a kind of relationship extinction level event, that low probability is still a high consequence, potentially. So I would encourage you to slow your roll. Next year and a half, at least. So the kid's a toddler.

But I want to go on together with you, including going to this place that you just told me you're kind of squicked out by. Even if there's a low probability of that conversation ending in a kind of relationship extinction level event, that low probability is still a high consequence, potentially. So I would encourage you to slow your roll. Next year and a half, at least. So the kid's a toddler.

Now, particularly as you have the kind of husband who steps up and does his fair share, hopefully his equal share of the child rearing, and to the point where you have nights off to pursue this passion of yours, credit to your husband, credit to you, but you not take that for granted. And you wait a bit. You wait until it's not too high pressure. And then...

Now, particularly as you have the kind of husband who steps up and does his fair share, hopefully his equal share of the child rearing, and to the point where you have nights off to pursue this passion of yours, credit to your husband, credit to you, but you not take that for granted. And you wait a bit. You wait until it's not too high pressure. And then...

You can say to your husband, who may have marinated on it a little bit. A lot of people, when it's not their idea, you know, a kink, a place to fuck, a thing to do, will have an instant, ooh, no, I would never.

You can say to your husband, who may have marinated on it a little bit. A lot of people, when it's not their idea, you know, a kink, a place to fuck, a thing to do, will have an instant, ooh, no, I would never.

And I encourage people when somebody lays their kink cards on the table and they're not your kinks, not to say no, which kind of sex negative culture teaches us to say, no, not for me, not the thing I want instead to say, Oh, cause you don't know how you might feel six months or a year down the line after you've thought about it. And so, yeah, maybe a year from now, your husband will be like, Oh,

And I encourage people when somebody lays their kink cards on the table and they're not your kinks, not to say no, which kind of sex negative culture teaches us to say, no, not for me, not the thing I want instead to say, Oh, cause you don't know how you might feel six months or a year down the line after you've thought about it. And so, yeah, maybe a year from now, your husband will be like, Oh,

after hearing a few more of your stories about your performances and this club and other venues more open to attending, but I wouldn't push it right now.

after hearing a few more of your stories about your performances and this club and other venues more open to attending, but I wouldn't push it right now.