Dan Savage

Sometimes we can't smell ourselves and we need someone to look at us and say, oh my God, you need to go brush your teeth. And that person isn't going to be a coworker. It's not going to be your employer. Ideally, it's not going to be a neighbor. It's not going to be hopefully somebody on the bus. It's not going to be. a telegram from the president on your 100th birthday, it's got to be who?

It's got to be you. It's got to be the significant other. It's got to be the person that you love and live with and rely on to look out for you and to look out for what's best for you, which includes flossing and brushing your teeth. Your teeth all don't rot and fall the fuck out of your head, which includes saying things like,

It's got to be you. It's got to be the significant other. It's got to be the person that you love and live with and rely on to look out for you and to look out for what's best for you, which includes flossing and brushing your teeth. Your teeth all don't rot and fall the fuck out of your head, which includes saying things like,

Hey, you need to go take a shower because I really want to be close to you. And this is getting in the way. Your butt stinks sometimes. All our butts stink sometimes. I'm sure my butt stinks sometimes. You can soften the blow by saying this. I'm sure sometimes I stink. And you know what? If I stink, you can tell me. I want you to tell me.

Hey, you need to go take a shower because I really want to be close to you. And this is getting in the way. Your butt stinks sometimes. All our butts stink sometimes. I'm sure my butt stinks sometimes. You can soften the blow by saying this. I'm sure sometimes I stink. And you know what? If I stink, you can tell me. I want you to tell me.

If I stink and I didn't realize it and I need to go jump in the shower, but I am right now telling you that, and I'm going to keep telling you that. So fuck gentle suggestions, fuck light inquiries, fuck playing clue. Start laying it down. All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment thread at savage.love.

If I stink and I didn't realize it and I need to go jump in the shower, but I am right now telling you that, and I'm going to keep telling you that. So fuck gentle suggestions, fuck light inquiries, fuck playing clue. Start laying it down. All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment thread at savage.love.

Says PB5KJ, to the woman whose husband wants to explore jerking off with guys and maybe an MMF threesome, she should read former Lovecast guest Jane Ward's book, Not Gay, Sex Between Straight White Men. It's a fascinating eye-opening look at men's interests in and need for sexual contact with other men, no matter how they identify.

Says PB5KJ, to the woman whose husband wants to explore jerking off with guys and maybe an MMF threesome, she should read former Lovecast guest Jane Ward's book, Not Gay, Sex Between Straight White Men. It's a fascinating eye-opening look at men's interests in and need for sexual contact with other men, no matter how they identify.

By Danfan weighed in on whether sending a plus one on a wedding invitation to somebody you know to be polyamorous is polyphobic. Speaking as a poly person says by Danfan, if you are in a triad and everyone in the triad knows the couple, then the triad is the equivalent of a couple for the sake of a wedding invitation. But most polyamorous relationships are not triads.

By Danfan weighed in on whether sending a plus one on a wedding invitation to somebody you know to be polyamorous is polyphobic. Speaking as a poly person says by Danfan, if you are in a triad and everyone in the triad knows the couple, then the triad is the equivalent of a couple for the sake of a wedding invitation. But most polyamorous relationships are not triads.

If I have more than one partner and receive an invitation with a plus one, I would pick the one who knows the couple best. Every additional person costs the couple, inviting you to their wedding, money is what a lot of people seem to forget.

If I have more than one partner and receive an invitation with a plus one, I would pick the one who knows the couple best. Every additional person costs the couple, inviting you to their wedding, money is what a lot of people seem to forget.

And finally, says Crin Reads, to the caller whose queer son objects to his mother reading MM romance novels, as someone who is an avid reader of queer romance by all different types of authors, there is definitely a subset of straight female authors who are writing fetishizing or objectifying MM romance novels.

And finally, says Crin Reads, to the caller whose queer son objects to his mother reading MM romance novels, as someone who is an avid reader of queer romance by all different types of authors, there is definitely a subset of straight female authors who are writing fetishizing or objectifying MM romance novels.

And they are doing it because there is a subset of straight female readers who are buying it. Okay, Crenn reads, point taken, but seems to me, even if every MM romance novel written by a straight woman for other straight women fetishizes or objectifies gay men, where's the harm?

And they are doing it because there is a subset of straight female readers who are buying it. Okay, Crenn reads, point taken, but seems to me, even if every MM romance novel written by a straight woman for other straight women fetishizes or objectifies gay men, where's the harm?

It's not like these straight women are going to treat the gay men they date as objects because gay men aren't going to date them. And a woman who reads MM romance novels, probably less homophobic on average than a woman who doesn't.

It's not like these straight women are going to treat the gay men they date as objects because gay men aren't going to date them. And a woman who reads MM romance novels, probably less homophobic on average than a woman who doesn't.

So while I see how this might be cringe, and we all know how sensitive teenagers are to cringe behaviors, particularly coming from their parents, I don't see how it's a problem. All right, for more listener feedback and to try your hand at giving some advice yourself, check out Struggle Session every Thursday at savage.love.