Dan Savage

As people age, people in long-term relationships, people in marriages tend to live longer and remain healthier over time than single people because there is someone there to say, hey, stop complaining about X and go to the fucking doctor already.

As people age, people in long-term relationships, people in marriages tend to live longer and remain healthier over time than single people because there is someone there to say, hey, stop complaining about X and go to the fucking doctor already.

There's also someone there when it comes to personal hygiene practices to say, hey, I have noticed you have stopped flossing, stopped brushing your teeth regularly, and this doesn't just impact you. And if you were single, it wouldn't matter, but like your breath stinks and you got to go floss and brush your teeth. We will go do that together.

There's also someone there when it comes to personal hygiene practices to say, hey, I have noticed you have stopped flossing, stopped brushing your teeth regularly, and this doesn't just impact you. And if you were single, it wouldn't matter, but like your breath stinks and you got to go floss and brush your teeth. We will go do that together.

And stop with the gentle suggestions about maybe we could possibly think about one day before we get into bed, taking a shower together, perhaps. Doesn't that sound like fun? And say to her. You stink. I've said that to my husband and he hasn't left me. And my husband has said the same thing to me.

And stop with the gentle suggestions about maybe we could possibly think about one day before we get into bed, taking a shower together, perhaps. Doesn't that sound like fun? And say to her. You stink. I've said that to my husband and he hasn't left me. And my husband has said the same thing to me.

Sometimes we can't smell ourselves and we need someone to look at us and say, oh my God, you need to go brush your teeth. And that person isn't going to be a coworker. It's not going to be your employer. Ideally, it's not going to be a neighbor. It's not going to be hopefully somebody on the bus. It's not going to be. a telegram from the president on your 100th birthday, it's got to be who?

Sometimes we can't smell ourselves and we need someone to look at us and say, oh my God, you need to go brush your teeth. And that person isn't going to be a coworker. It's not going to be your employer. Ideally, it's not going to be a neighbor. It's not going to be hopefully somebody on the bus. It's not going to be. a telegram from the president on your 100th birthday, it's got to be who?

It's got to be you. It's got to be the significant other. It's got to be the person that you love and live with and rely on to look out for you and to look out for what's best for you, which includes flossing and brushing your teeth. Your teeth all don't rot and fall the fuck out of your head, which includes saying things like,

It's got to be you. It's got to be the significant other. It's got to be the person that you love and live with and rely on to look out for you and to look out for what's best for you, which includes flossing and brushing your teeth. Your teeth all don't rot and fall the fuck out of your head, which includes saying things like,

Hey, you need to go take a shower because I really want to be close to you. And this is getting in the way. Your butt stinks sometimes. All our butts stink sometimes. I'm sure my butt stinks sometimes. You can soften the blow by saying this. I'm sure sometimes I stink. And you know what? If I stink, you can tell me. I want you to tell me.

Hey, you need to go take a shower because I really want to be close to you. And this is getting in the way. Your butt stinks sometimes. All our butts stink sometimes. I'm sure my butt stinks sometimes. You can soften the blow by saying this. I'm sure sometimes I stink. And you know what? If I stink, you can tell me. I want you to tell me.

If I stink and I didn't realize it and I need to go jump in the shower, but I am right now telling you that, and I'm going to keep telling you that. So fuck gentle suggestions, fuck light inquiries, fuck playing clue. Start laying it down. All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment thread at savage.love.

If I stink and I didn't realize it and I need to go jump in the shower, but I am right now telling you that, and I'm going to keep telling you that. So fuck gentle suggestions, fuck light inquiries, fuck playing clue. Start laying it down. All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment thread at savage.love.

Says PB5KJ, to the woman whose husband wants to explore jerking off with guys and maybe an MMF threesome, she should read former Lovecast guest Jane Ward's book, Not Gay, Sex Between Straight White Men. It's a fascinating eye-opening look at men's interests in and need for sexual contact with other men, no matter how they identify.

Says PB5KJ, to the woman whose husband wants to explore jerking off with guys and maybe an MMF threesome, she should read former Lovecast guest Jane Ward's book, Not Gay, Sex Between Straight White Men. It's a fascinating eye-opening look at men's interests in and need for sexual contact with other men, no matter how they identify.

By Danfan weighed in on whether sending a plus one on a wedding invitation to somebody you know to be polyamorous is polyphobic. Speaking as a poly person says by Danfan, if you are in a triad and everyone in the triad knows the couple, then the triad is the equivalent of a couple for the sake of a wedding invitation. But most polyamorous relationships are not triads.

By Danfan weighed in on whether sending a plus one on a wedding invitation to somebody you know to be polyamorous is polyphobic. Speaking as a poly person says by Danfan, if you are in a triad and everyone in the triad knows the couple, then the triad is the equivalent of a couple for the sake of a wedding invitation. But most polyamorous relationships are not triads.

If I have more than one partner and receive an invitation with a plus one, I would pick the one who knows the couple best. Every additional person costs the couple, inviting you to their wedding, money is what a lot of people seem to forget.

If I have more than one partner and receive an invitation with a plus one, I would pick the one who knows the couple best. Every additional person costs the couple, inviting you to their wedding, money is what a lot of people seem to forget.