Dan Savage

That said, in Berlin, there are a lot more events and fetish parties that are a lot more inclusive and welcoming. And when we talk about the events attached to Folsom Berlin, we mean the parties a lot. And I go to Folsom Berlin. I've been a bunch of times. I've never been to the parties, but the street festival, which is what a lot of people go for. I see lots of women at the street festival.

I do think that's fucked up, particularly on the trans people angle. I've been to some of the sex clubs in Berlin. I was with Qualgeist recently and it was a men's night and there were some trans men there and nobody had a problem with it and it was totally fine.

I do think that's fucked up, particularly on the trans people angle. I've been to some of the sex clubs in Berlin. I was with Qualgeist recently and it was a men's night and there were some trans men there and nobody had a problem with it and it was totally fine.

So that's obviously like... Prinzkenest is a very famous gay bar on Fugastrasse, which is where Folsom Berlin, the street festival where everybody's welcome, takes place. I noticed last time I was there, they used to have a sign saying, over Prince Connect that said men only, and that would be enforced after 10 p.m., and now it says men's bar.

So that's obviously like... Prinzkenest is a very famous gay bar on Fugastrasse, which is where Folsom Berlin, the street festival where everybody's welcome, takes place. I noticed last time I was there, they used to have a sign saying, over Prince Connect that said men only, and that would be enforced after 10 p.m., and now it says men's bar.

It's gone from a dictate to a suggestion, and maybe there's some progress there.

It's gone from a dictate to a suggestion, and maybe there's some progress there.

But to the caller's question, she and her male heteroflexible sub would be perfectly welcome and feel comfortable at the street fair, especially if they're in some gear. If you show up looking like American tourists who wandered in off Kerfurstendamm, you're going to get some looks. But if you show up in gear… looking like you're a kinkster too. You're just straight or pan or by kinksters.

But to the caller's question, she and her male heteroflexible sub would be perfectly welcome and feel comfortable at the street fair, especially if they're in some gear. If you show up looking like American tourists who wandered in off Kerfurstendamm, you're going to get some looks. But if you show up in gear… looking like you're a kinkster too. You're just straight or pan or by kinksters.

You're not going to get grief from gay men. The gay men at the street fair are happy to see you there. Maybe not the gay man managing one of the bars off the street, but the people at the festival are happy to see you. And we'll be welcome.

You're not going to get grief from gay men. The gay men at the street fair are happy to see you there. Maybe not the gay man managing one of the bars off the street, but the people at the festival are happy to see you. And we'll be welcome.

And if they want to go to an event or a party, are there any events and parties, kink spaces, queer spaces that are more inclusive than the men only parties she stumbled over looking around on the internet?

And if they want to go to an event or a party, are there any events and parties, kink spaces, queer spaces that are more inclusive than the men only parties she stumbled over looking around on the internet?

I only go for the cocktails. I'm just there for the food. Of course, of course.

I only go for the cocktails. I'm just there for the food. Of course, of course.

So there are a lot of options for her. She didn't have much luck looking around on her own on the internet. You've tossed out a lot of names of a lot of places that she could go with her partner and feel welcome. And again, I want to emphasize welcome at the street party. Welcome at the street party. I do want to drill down for just a second though. Like you talked about Flinter.

So there are a lot of options for her. She didn't have much luck looking around on her own on the internet. You've tossed out a lot of names of a lot of places that she could go with her partner and feel welcome. And again, I want to emphasize welcome at the street party. Welcome at the street party. I do want to drill down for just a second though. Like you talked about Flinter.

Cis men don't get to go to this party, right?

Cis men don't get to go to this party, right?

I know it's not an apples to orange comparison because there are very few venues that are welcoming of everybody compared to the many places that are men only. But... you know, if it's a sex space and things sometimes happen in sex spaces when it's all men that probably wouldn't work in a mixed space. I'm thinking of a dark room where by entering the dark room, you've consented to being groped.