Dan Savage

One of the first times I had sex with my boyfriend, I asked if he could bring me off with my trusted vibrator. And he was like, sure. Seven years and two vibrators later, we still bring the toys in when we want some guaranteed fun for both of us. He has never been insecure about it. The guys who are insecure about it can hit the bricks as far as I'm concerned.

Says Mickey PG, this is a comment for the woman who dated the bi guy who realized he couldn't be with a woman long term. I would advise you to stay friends with him. He likes you as a person, and maybe he knows some nice hot bi guys he can set you up with. I briefly dated a woman who realized she wasn't really into men. We became good friends instead.

Says Mickey PG, this is a comment for the woman who dated the bi guy who realized he couldn't be with a woman long term. I would advise you to stay friends with him. He likes you as a person, and maybe he knows some nice hot bi guys he can set you up with. I briefly dated a woman who realized she wasn't really into men. We became good friends instead.

She wound up setting me up with a wonderful friend of hers. Her friend and I now married and have a child. The same could happen for you. Good luck." And finally, says Laura, I don't know. The idea that a man who mostly has had sex with men would be better at having sex with women for that reason sounds absurd to me.

She wound up setting me up with a wonderful friend of hers. Her friend and I now married and have a child. The same could happen for you. Good luck." And finally, says Laura, I don't know. The idea that a man who mostly has had sex with men would be better at having sex with women for that reason sounds absurd to me.

Unless you believe straight guys just don't care about their partner's pleasure and don't learn from experience, which has not been my experience at all. Laura, I'm really glad that your experience with straight guys has been so positive. There are good straight guys out there. I like to think the good straight guys out there are listening to my show.

Unless you believe straight guys just don't care about their partner's pleasure and don't learn from experience, which has not been my experience at all. Laura, I'm really glad that your experience with straight guys has been so positive. There are good straight guys out there. I like to think the good straight guys out there are listening to my show.

But the orgasm gap exists for a reason because not all straight guys are invested in their partner's pleasure or willing to learn from experience. And it makes sense to me. The idea that a guy who's been mostly with men might be willing to do whatever it takes to get his partner off whoever his partner might be.

But the orgasm gap exists for a reason because not all straight guys are invested in their partner's pleasure or willing to learn from experience. And it makes sense to me. The idea that a guy who's been mostly with men might be willing to do whatever it takes to get his partner off whoever his partner might be.

Makes sense to me because if you're having sex with dudes a lot, it's not over until you both get off. There wouldn't be an orgasm gap if men who had sex only with women felt the same way. All right, for more listener feedback, keep listening as listener response calls are coming right up. Doing something different with struggle session lately.

Makes sense to me because if you're having sex with dudes a lot, it's not over until you both get off. There wouldn't be an orgasm gap if men who had sex only with women felt the same way. All right, for more listener feedback, keep listening as listener response calls are coming right up. Doing something different with struggle session lately.

Struggle session is where I usually respond to listener and reader comments. But for the rest of the summer, I am running letters and inviting readers to weigh in on letters that didn't make it into the column. Check that out at savage.love on Thursdays.

Struggle session is where I usually respond to listener and reader comments. But for the rest of the summer, I am running letters and inviting readers to weigh in on letters that didn't make it into the column. Check that out at savage.love on Thursdays.

And now, my favorite part of the show and everybody else's favorite part of the show, the part of the show where I shut my mouth and let my listeners have the last word.

And now, my favorite part of the show and everybody else's favorite part of the show, the part of the show where I shut my mouth and let my listeners have the last word.

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And we're going to leave it there. We've got three ways for you to get us your juicy questions and insightful comments for future shows. You can record your question at savage.love slash askdan. Or you can make a voice memo on your very own phone and email your question or comment to q at savage.love. Or you can call our landline and leave us a message, old school, at 206-302-2064.

A note for listeners in Seattle. An award-winning documentary film I worked on, Jimmy in Saigon, is playing at CIFF this Thursday night at 7.30 p.m. The film was made by my ex-college boyfriend, Peter McDowell, about his brother who died in Vietnam when my ex was just five years old. It is a fascinating film. I will be there. Peter will be there.

A note for listeners in Seattle. An award-winning documentary film I worked on, Jimmy in Saigon, is playing at CIFF this Thursday night at 7.30 p.m. The film was made by my ex-college boyfriend, Peter McDowell, about his brother who died in Vietnam when my ex was just five years old. It is a fascinating film. I will be there. Peter will be there.

And we will be having a Q&A together after the screening. For more info and tickets, go to Sith.net. Follow me on Instagram and threads at Dan Savage. And follow me at Blue Sky, also at Dan Savage. Follow Nancy, not our Nancy, Savage Lovecast producer, our guest, Nancy Crossdresser, on Twitter at NancyRoseTV. The Savage Lovecast is produced every week by our Nancy, Nancy Hartunian.