Dan Savage

And so, yeah, because you bonded and because you have a friendship with the mother, yeah, you should probably stay involved in this child's life so long as it is something the mom is comfortable with in addition to something the child wants.

And so, yeah, because you bonded and because you have a friendship with the mother, yeah, you should probably stay involved in this child's life so long as it is something the mom is comfortable with in addition to something the child wants.

If you're thinking about dating somebody else in the future who is already a parent, what you need to tell this person at two months is I really think you're awesome and I really look forward to introducing you to my kid or kids after we've been together a year at least. because I'm not going to risk my kid's sense of security and safety.

If you're thinking about dating somebody else in the future who is already a parent, what you need to tell this person at two months is I really think you're awesome and I really look forward to introducing you to my kid or kids after we've been together a year at least. because I'm not going to risk my kid's sense of security and safety.

And I don't want, while we're still getting to know each other to complicate our relationship by you forming a relationship with my child. Yeah. So yeah. What you want to look forward in the future, if you're going to date people with kids is that they don't introduce you to their fucking kids eight weeks into the relationship.

And I don't want, while we're still getting to know each other to complicate our relationship by you forming a relationship with my child. Yeah. So yeah. What you want to look forward in the future, if you're going to date people with kids is that they don't introduce you to their fucking kids eight weeks into the relationship.

And if they try to introduce you to their kid eight weeks into the relationship, and from the sound of things, shift parenting burdens and responsibilities onto your shoulders, that's a red fucking flag. Somebody you're dating for six weeks, a month, a couple months is like, I want to introduce you to my kids. You're like, oh, you do? Okay, this is over. We're done.

And if they try to introduce you to their kid eight weeks into the relationship, and from the sound of things, shift parenting burdens and responsibilities onto your shoulders, that's a red fucking flag. Somebody you're dating for six weeks, a month, a couple months is like, I want to introduce you to my kids. You're like, oh, you do? Okay, this is over. We're done.

That's how you handle dating people with kids in the future. And I just want to say, I'm sure there are people out there who are going to point to this question, to your question, as an example of the kind of chaos and drama that polyamory and non-monogamy can create in people's lives and how that chaos and churn can impact others like kids.

That's how you handle dating people with kids in the future. And I just want to say, I'm sure there are people out there who are going to point to this question, to your question, as an example of the kind of chaos and drama that polyamory and non-monogamy can create in people's lives and how that chaos and churn can impact others like kids.

Yeah, yeah, this is a good example of that particular kind of chaos that non-monogamy can create. But there are plenty of people in monogamous relationships, serial monogamists, who do this exact same thing. They have one partner at a time, and they bring that person, that new partner, into the lives of their children, and they have a lot of churn and drama, and yet they are monogamous.

Yeah, yeah, this is a good example of that particular kind of chaos that non-monogamy can create. But there are plenty of people in monogamous relationships, serial monogamists, who do this exact same thing. They have one partner at a time, and they bring that person, that new partner, into the lives of their children, and they have a lot of churn and drama, and yet they are monogamous.

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