Dan Savage

So let's go talk to a therapist who has some expertise in this neurodivergency area. And let's get you to somebody who can actually is qualified to diagnose neurodivergency and figure out what the fuck it actually is. And if there are ways in which I can relate to you differently, that'll bring out, uh,

So let's go talk to a therapist who has some expertise in this neurodivergency area. And let's get you to somebody who can actually is qualified to diagnose neurodivergency and figure out what the fuck it actually is. And if there are ways in which I can relate to you differently, that'll bring out, uh,

of you, some of what I need from a partner to be in a relationship, if there's ways I can function differently in this relationship that accommodates what makes you special, maybe we can make it work. But as it stands now, it wasn't working for you. And him saying the magic word neurodivergent didn't turn it into a relationship that works for you or obligate you to stay in the relationship.

of you, some of what I need from a partner to be in a relationship, if there's ways I can function differently in this relationship that accommodates what makes you special, maybe we can make it work. But as it stands now, it wasn't working for you. And him saying the magic word neurodivergent didn't turn it into a relationship that works for you or obligate you to stay in the relationship.

The leverage here is the threat to leave. And he may need help if he thinks he's neurodivergent in some way and he's never had any help with it.

The leverage here is the threat to leave. And he may need help if he thinks he's neurodivergent in some way and he's never had any help with it.

Your relationship with him now could be the incentive he needs to go and get help that may help him understand himself better, help him relate to other people better, help him maintain and sustain the relationship he has with you or maintain and sustain a relationship he has with somebody else if your relationship should end.

Your relationship with him now could be the incentive he needs to go and get help that may help him understand himself better, help him relate to other people better, help him maintain and sustain the relationship he has with you or maintain and sustain a relationship he has with somebody else if your relationship should end.

which it still could and you are allowed to end this relationship if you need to. Somebody can be neurodivergent and fail to meet your needs and you are still allowed to go.

which it still could and you are allowed to end this relationship if you need to. Somebody can be neurodivergent and fail to meet your needs and you are still allowed to go.

We're going to take a quick break from your calls to speak once again with Claire Perlman, a queer Jewish certified sex therapist who lives and works in the Bay Area. She's passionate about creating accessible sex education and normalizing play, pleasure, and sexual freedom for everyone. Claire, welcome back to the Lovecast.

We're going to take a quick break from your calls to speak once again with Claire Perlman, a queer Jewish certified sex therapist who lives and works in the Bay Area. She's passionate about creating accessible sex education and normalizing play, pleasure, and sexual freedom for everyone. Claire, welcome back to the Lovecast.

Hi. Hi. I wanted to have you on today of all days to record for tomorrow of all days after. Because a terrible thing is happening right now while we're talking. And sometimes terrible things, world historical political events that are deeply, deeply shitty can tank a person's libido, can crater a person's libido.

Hi. Hi. I wanted to have you on today of all days to record for tomorrow of all days after. Because a terrible thing is happening right now while we're talking. And sometimes terrible things, world historical political events that are deeply, deeply shitty can tank a person's libido, can crater a person's libido.

Some advice for folks out there, particularly I think women and other people who are assigned female at birth watching this, that man take the oath of office again. Some advice for people who are struggling to literally or figuratively get back on the stick.

Some advice for folks out there, particularly I think women and other people who are assigned female at birth watching this, that man take the oath of office again. Some advice for people who are struggling to literally or figuratively get back on the stick.

Yeah, I keep thinking he's taken so much from us and occupies so much mental space, emotional space. I don't want to give him this too. I don't want to not fuck because I can't stop doom scrolling, whether I actually have my phone in my hand and I'm doom scrolling, or it's just my thoughts racing away from me.

Yeah, I keep thinking he's taken so much from us and occupies so much mental space, emotional space. I don't want to give him this too. I don't want to not fuck because I can't stop doom scrolling, whether I actually have my phone in my hand and I'm doom scrolling, or it's just my thoughts racing away from me.

There's something very... Even if you have to will it to get back in the groove, there's something that... makes you very present if you're having a sexual encounter and it takes off, like you catch momentum, you catch that wave, you're aroused, you're clicking with your partner.

There's something very... Even if you have to will it to get back in the groove, there's something that... makes you very present if you're having a sexual encounter and it takes off, like you catch momentum, you catch that wave, you're aroused, you're clicking with your partner.