Dan Savage

And I just think there's something, especially right now about good sex, good fucking consensual sex, sex with people that want to have sex with you, that you want to have sex with is a way of sort of taking sex back from the Hagsworths. And I'm not even gonna say his fucking name on today's show. That other guy who just got sworn in for a second fucking term.

And I just think there's something, especially right now about good sex, good fucking consensual sex, sex with people that want to have sex with you, that you want to have sex with is a way of sort of taking sex back from the Hagsworths. And I'm not even gonna say his fucking name on today's show. That other guy who just got sworn in for a second fucking term.

Good sex is something that they are not capable of. Consensual sex, respectful sex, wanted sex. And it helps me at this moment to feel like good sex is an act of defiance. Not a distraction, but defiance. And we need to defy it all the ways we can.

Good sex is something that they are not capable of. Consensual sex, respectful sex, wanted sex. And it helps me at this moment to feel like good sex is an act of defiance. Not a distraction, but defiance. And we need to defy it all the ways we can.

I'm going to trot out the HIV AIDS epidemic. I lived through it. I came out in 1980, 81. Yeah. And then the meteor hit and it was horrible. And, you know, ACT UP happened and just this wave of activism and people taking care of each other.

I'm going to trot out the HIV AIDS epidemic. I lived through it. I came out in 1980, 81. Yeah. And then the meteor hit and it was horrible. And, you know, ACT UP happened and just this wave of activism and people taking care of each other.

And one of the things that drove them crazy, the right-wingers, the religious conservatives, the Jerry Falwell seniors of the world, was they would watch us at a demo and then they would hear about, or we would post, you know, we would share photos in newspapers and magazines because there weren't internet then, of the dance party after. And that we were still fucking.

And one of the things that drove them crazy, the right-wingers, the religious conservatives, the Jerry Falwell seniors of the world, was they would watch us at a demo and then they would hear about, or we would post, you know, we would share photos in newspapers and magazines because there weren't internet then, of the dance party after. And that we were still fucking.

Because they wanted us on the floor in the fetal position, too beat down, too depressed to connect. Not just politically, but also sexually and intimately. And we didn't let the virus take that from us. So just like a message to people out there who feel crushed by this moment. I couldn't have felt more crushed in 1985 by the AIDS epidemic than I did. And we fucked our way through it.

Because they wanted us on the floor in the fetal position, too beat down, too depressed to connect. Not just politically, but also sexually and intimately. And we didn't let the virus take that from us. So just like a message to people out there who feel crushed by this moment. I couldn't have felt more crushed in 1985 by the AIDS epidemic than I did. And we fucked our way through it.

And it was one of the ways we took care of each other was by still connecting intimately and as safely as we could.

And it was one of the ways we took care of each other was by still connecting intimately and as safely as we could.

Get some IUDs, get some M&Ms, the abortion medications. You can order them and just keep them. They're good on the shelf for five years. Get some morning after pills. Stock the fuck up, not just for yourself, but for friends who might be living in states soon where it's going to be impossible to get these meds. Stock the fuck up now.

Get some IUDs, get some M&Ms, the abortion medications. You can order them and just keep them. They're good on the shelf for five years. Get some morning after pills. Stock the fuck up, not just for yourself, but for friends who might be living in states soon where it's going to be impossible to get these meds. Stock the fuck up now.

And I have Mipha Pristone and the other one. We have M&Ms that we got so that if we ever had a woman friend, relative, niece who needed it, that we could swoop the fuck in. So that's the theory. We've gone through like the theory of why you should be fucking just a little practical.

And I have Mipha Pristone and the other one. We have M&Ms that we got so that if we ever had a woman friend, relative, niece who needed it, that we could swoop the fuck in. So that's the theory. We've gone through like the theory of why you should be fucking just a little practical.

If you're having trouble, like, you know, turning the key, getting the motor to turn over, what's a practical thing a person could do.

If you're having trouble, like, you know, turning the key, getting the motor to turn over, what's a practical thing a person could do.

I do too. I also sometimes think – you know, there's the, the two chief erogenous zones, like the clitoris, the head of the penis, but there's all sorts of other erogenous zones that can kind of function like turning the key. Yeah. The biggest sex organs between our ears, but how do you get your dick in there? That can function a little bit like turning the key in the ignition.

I do too. I also sometimes think – you know, there's the, the two chief erogenous zones, like the clitoris, the head of the penis, but there's all sorts of other erogenous zones that can kind of function like turning the key. Yeah. The biggest sex organs between our ears, but how do you get your dick in there? That can function a little bit like turning the key in the ignition.