Dan Savage

We're just like, instead of like, we're going to fuck and like, we got to get our genitals to kick into gear. Just like, playing with each other's tits, like holding each other, but like the fingers gently moving across the nipples. And then if that's all it's going to be is like gentle nipple play to make you feel present and centered. Great. That's good.

We're just like, instead of like, we're going to fuck and like, we got to get our genitals to kick into gear. Just like, playing with each other's tits, like holding each other, but like the fingers gently moving across the nipples. And then if that's all it's going to be is like gentle nipple play to make you feel present and centered. Great. That's good.

And then maybe like it'll spread and then suddenly you'll be fucking. And I just also want to remind everybody that, Sex is a great way to disengage and it's not a betrayal to disengage with sex or whatever else gives you pleasure. Asexual, ace people who I know listen to the show, whatever works for you physically, tactilely as well, is not a betrayal of the political moment to disengage.

And then maybe like it'll spread and then suddenly you'll be fucking. And I just also want to remind everybody that, Sex is a great way to disengage and it's not a betrayal to disengage with sex or whatever else gives you pleasure. Asexual, ace people who I know listen to the show, whatever works for you physically, tactilely as well, is not a betrayal of the political moment to disengage.

And you can re-engage.

And you can re-engage.

And you're better prepared to re-engage if your life isn't devoid of sexual connection and joy.

And you're better prepared to re-engage if your life isn't devoid of sexual connection and joy.

Or somebody else's cup.

Or somebody else's cup.

That's what the parties after the big AIDS demos were like. It recharged us. It was a way of venting a lot of the anger and pain and energy from that day's demo, but also it set us up for the next demo.

That's what the parties after the big AIDS demos were like. It recharged us. It was a way of venting a lot of the anger and pain and energy from that day's demo, but also it set us up for the next demo.

It is impossible, really, I have found, to think about politics when somebody's sitting on your face. It's just impossible. Like they used to say about, you know, an execution when it's scheduled in the morning, it focuses the mind. Nothing else like it focuses the mind. The same is true of somebody sitting the fuck down on your face. It focuses the mind.

It is impossible, really, I have found, to think about politics when somebody's sitting on your face. It's just impossible. Like they used to say about, you know, an execution when it's scheduled in the morning, it focuses the mind. Nothing else like it focuses the mind. The same is true of somebody sitting the fuck down on your face. It focuses the mind.

There's only one thing you can see at that moment.

There's only one thing you can see at that moment.

Agreed. Claire Perlman, queer Jewish certified sex therapist in the Bay Area. Claire, thank you so much for coming back on the show. Let's keep checking in with each other. Let's get through this and help our listeners and followers get through it.

Agreed. Claire Perlman, queer Jewish certified sex therapist in the Bay Area. Claire, thank you so much for coming back on the show. Let's keep checking in with each other. Let's get through this and help our listeners and followers get through it.

It's going to be a rough four years, and I really want people to make time for the intimacy and connection that makes life worth living no matter who the fuck is sitting in the Oval Office.

It's going to be a rough four years, and I really want people to make time for the intimacy and connection that makes life worth living no matter who the fuck is sitting in the Oval Office.