Dan Savage

Shall we brainstorm up an idea or two?

Shall we brainstorm up an idea or two?

Because your kid was six when you called. I'm sorry we didn't get to your call.

Because your kid was six when you called. I'm sorry we didn't get to your call.

Hey, annoying straight girls are my bread and butter. I love annoying straight girls. I've been helping out annoying straight girls since 1991. It's literally on my shingle outside my office. So you guys are going to get a divorce?

Hey, annoying straight girls are my bread and butter. I love annoying straight girls. I've been helping out annoying straight girls since 1991. It's literally on my shingle outside my office. So you guys are going to get a divorce?

You guys love each other. If you have a good and loving and mutually supportive companionate relationship, and you co-parent well together, and you don't want to add the stress of...

You guys love each other. If you have a good and loving and mutually supportive companionate relationship, and you co-parent well together, and you don't want to add the stress of...

you know, moving a kid back and forth from one home to another, or if you do the nesting style where one of you moves out and the other moves back in and you guys are the ones moving between domiciles, that's not nothing. And maybe that has such value to your husband that he'd be willing to shoulder the risk of

you know, moving a kid back and forth from one home to another, or if you do the nesting style where one of you moves out and the other moves back in and you guys are the ones moving between domiciles, that's not nothing. And maybe that has such value to your husband that he'd be willing to shoulder the risk of

of you having sex with somebody else and him finding out about it or even you know we live in modern times it's a new world even in small towns even if it you know got out if you guys then sort of came out publicly as companionate that we have a companionate marriage nobody is really it's only something in a small town you got to say once um

of you having sex with somebody else and him finding out about it or even you know we live in modern times it's a new world even in small towns even if it you know got out if you guys then sort of came out publicly as companionate that we have a companionate marriage nobody is really it's only something in a small town you got to say once um

look, we love each other, we're great parents, we're married, we're husband and wife, we're staying together, but it's a companionate relationship and we're both free to have sex outside the relationship or relationships outside the marriage and no one's being harmed or wrong. And as scary a thing that is to say in a small town, because it will be the topic for a week, once it's said, it's done.

look, we love each other, we're great parents, we're married, we're husband and wife, we're staying together, but it's a companionate relationship and we're both free to have sex outside the relationship or relationships outside the marriage and no one's being harmed or wrong. And as scary a thing that is to say in a small town, because it will be the topic for a week, once it's said, it's done.

And once... there's nothing more to gossip about your relationship out there. So maybe your husband, if you guys stay married and I'm kind of rooting for you guys to stay married, good parents, good companions. That's people devalue that. And I'm the sex maniac who puts too much importance on sex.

And once... there's nothing more to gossip about your relationship out there. So maybe your husband, if you guys stay married and I'm kind of rooting for you guys to stay married, good parents, good companions. That's people devalue that. And I'm the sex maniac who puts too much importance on sex.

And I tell people to do what they need to do to stay married and stay sane sometime, which can include cheating because sexual fulfillment is important and that sexual compatibility is important. We should prioritize it. But I'm also the guy who sometimes says, hey, a sexless relationship that's loving and low conflict, I wouldn't throw that away for a blowjob myself personally.

And I tell people to do what they need to do to stay married and stay sane sometime, which can include cheating because sexual fulfillment is important and that sexual compatibility is important. We should prioritize it. But I'm also the guy who sometimes says, hey, a sexless relationship that's loving and low conflict, I wouldn't throw that away for a blowjob myself personally.

I wouldn't throw that away for a tryst myself personally. If I can have both... The outside sex, the blowjobs, or just even the possibility of outside sex, because there's a reasonable set of rules that make it possible, not impossible, to get sex outside the marriage. I would stay in the marriage.

I wouldn't throw that away for a tryst myself personally. If I can have both... The outside sex, the blowjobs, or just even the possibility of outside sex, because there's a reasonable set of rules that make it possible, not impossible, to get sex outside the marriage. I would stay in the marriage.