Dan Savage

But easier for me to say as a gay man, because men are pigs and it's easier for us to find each other, right? Than it is for straight women to safely find... male side pieces.

But easier for me to say as a gay man, because men are pigs and it's easier for us to find each other, right? Than it is for straight women to safely find... male side pieces.

You know, kinky women are a prize. There are so many more kinky men than kinky women. And you're yet another example of the straight married woman who comes into her kinks in her thirties. I see it all the time. I think there's some fundamental thing that teaches us about differences between male and female sexuality and also male and female socialization. And so thank you for that.

You know, kinky women are a prize. There are so many more kinky men than kinky women. And you're yet another example of the straight married woman who comes into her kinks in her thirties. I see it all the time. I think there's some fundamental thing that teaches us about differences between male and female sexuality and also male and female socialization. And so thank you for that.

I love it when callers confirm my priors. Uh, and I gotta go. We're going to wish you luck. Give us a call back. Let us know what you decide to do. If you're going to get a divorce, uh, or stay together and come out as companionate. Um, which maybe your husband could wrap his mind around because then he wouldn't be thought a fool. He would be thought available and maybe he'd get some too.

I love it when callers confirm my priors. Uh, and I gotta go. We're going to wish you luck. Give us a call back. Let us know what you decide to do. If you're going to get a divorce, uh, or stay together and come out as companionate. Um, which maybe your husband could wrap his mind around because then he wouldn't be thought a fool. He would be thought available and maybe he'd get some too.

That was a stroke of good luck for you that she exited your life. And if she's out there listening, lady, good luck to you. Good luck finding a guy, a straight guy, who doesn't appreciate... hot women.

That was a stroke of good luck for you that she exited your life. And if she's out there listening, lady, good luck to you. Good luck finding a guy, a straight guy, who doesn't appreciate... hot women.

And you do well to find a straight guy who appreciates not just women who are exactly his favorite type, but can see the beauty in women who aren't necessarily his type, but have a kind of energy and bravado that is appealing and that he's into women, not just for their looks, but also for their personality.

And you do well to find a straight guy who appreciates not just women who are exactly his favorite type, but can see the beauty in women who aren't necessarily his type, but have a kind of energy and bravado that is appealing and that he's into women, not just for their looks, but also for their personality.

That's a good trait in a straight guy because eventually everybody looks fall apart and then you're left with personalities that And if he likes your energy, even if the rest of you eventually dissolves, he'll still be into you because you're at anyway, she's crazy and you're well rid of her. You are entitled as a human being to a zone of erotic autonomy.

That's a good trait in a straight guy because eventually everybody looks fall apart and then you're left with personalities that And if he likes your energy, even if the rest of you eventually dissolves, he'll still be into you because you're at anyway, she's crazy and you're well rid of her. You are entitled as a human being to a zone of erotic autonomy.

You are entitled as a human being, as was her ex to jack off every once in a while about whatever it is that you want to jack off about. And she doesn't get to police her, your erotic imagination. She doesn't get to police your fantasies.

You are entitled as a human being, as was her ex to jack off every once in a while about whatever it is that you want to jack off about. And she doesn't get to police her, your erotic imagination. She doesn't get to police your fantasies.

And it's a kind of insecure, controlling, manipulative, shitty behavior to act like you should be able to dictate to somebody what they can and cannot find arousing or to tell somebody that they're only allowed. to touch their own genitals when you're supervising them, which I guess is what she wants out of a dude. There are a couple of dudes like that out there.

And it's a kind of insecure, controlling, manipulative, shitty behavior to act like you should be able to dictate to somebody what they can and cannot find arousing or to tell somebody that they're only allowed. to touch their own genitals when you're supervising them, which I guess is what she wants out of a dude. There are a couple of dudes like that out there.

There are some guys into long-term chastity play. She should go find one whose dick she can literally put a cage on. But I'm guessing she doesn't want that. I'm guessing she's not kinky, that she's not honestly seeking an FLR, a female-led relationship. She just wants to default into some sort of F L R. Look, there are women out there who would be better partners for you.

There are some guys into long-term chastity play. She should go find one whose dick she can literally put a cage on. But I'm guessing she doesn't want that. I'm guessing she's not kinky, that she's not honestly seeking an FLR, a female-led relationship. She just wants to default into some sort of F L R. Look, there are women out there who would be better partners for you.

And I believe you when you say you weren't jacking off. I follow a lot of like random hot guys on Instagram and I don't, look at them and masturbate. They just pop up into my feed every once in a while and I'm like, dude's hot. That's nice to see. Hot people are nice to look at every once in a while.

And I believe you when you say you weren't jacking off. I follow a lot of like random hot guys on Instagram and I don't, look at them and masturbate. They just pop up into my feed every once in a while and I'm like, dude's hot. That's nice to see. Hot people are nice to look at every once in a while.