Dana Chivvis
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159 appearances
2 recordings
1 series
first heard Mar 2025
last heard 14 Sep
Dana Chivvis’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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It reminds me of being a plus one at a wedding, only miserable.
You don't know the person who died or their family, so it's hard to have any feelings about it.
Like the fact that Eddie Ferlani was gone, it hadn't changed the course of Charlie's life at all.
Just the course of his lunch break, really.
Charlie gets to the chapel late because Mark texted at the last minute and asked him to pick up some flowers for the family, corsages for Eddie Ferlani's daughter and widow.
As soon as he drives into the parking lot, he notices a woman sitting on the sidewalk, dressed in black, attending to a little boy who's having a total meltdown over his pants and how he doesn't want to be wearing them.
Charlie recognizes the boy from pictures as Eddie Ferlani's son.
When Charlie walks into the chapel, the service has already started, and he's carrying those flowers, so one of the funeral directors intercepts him and asks him if he's the flower delivery guy.
Charlie tries to explain, awkwardly, and in whisper talk, because again, the service has already started, that no, he's there for the service.
But no, he doesn't actually know the deceased.
And no, he doesn't know the family either.
He's just there for a guy in Florida, like as a stand-in.
The funeral director lets him by and Charlie finally squeezes into the back row of mourners.
People were giving eulogies.
In his essay, Charlie writes that it felt odd to hear about the achievements of a stranger, stories from his friends.
The men on the back wall with him were steel faced, betrayed no emotion, until Eddie Ferlani's daughter, a seven-year-old named Zelma, broke down in tears.
There was a part of your essay that I that really struck me, um that I'm just gonna read.
Um he wrote, The military trains you to separate the emotion from the mission.
Eddie's oldest girl, Zelma, was old enough to understand what was happening, but not military enough to know not to show it.
Did you want Zelma to be a little more military in that moment?
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