Danette

There's nothing for him to fall back on, and he doesn't know how to find a job doing something he would actually like.

Ideally, he would like to make a living off of his art instead, but he has no vision or plans on how to do that.

Not making money from his art makes him feel dejected and depressed, which piles on top of his responsibilities of taking care of his aging parents and grandmother alone since he still lives at home with them and his brother won't lift a finger to help.

That's a whole different issue.

I've tried and tried over the years to advise him on how to get out of there, chase his dreams, and find steady income in the meantime, even if it's not through his art.

But nothing sticks.

I've exhausted every option I can think of to help, and sometimes I feel like I'm taking on a parental role, which I think I'm beginning to resent.

He just feels hopeless.

I've suggested that he needs to go to therapy to seek the tools and advice that is outside of my wheelhouse of expertise, though I know he can't really afford that.

Neither can I, for that matter.

I, however, have been trying to move forward in life, improve myself in different ways, and figure out what I want in life.

The more he stays stuck in place, the more I feel like our lives are diverging onto different paths.

Since he's never had anything more than arbitrary ideas of, quote, I've become more disillusioned with marriage.

I love him, but I'm truly exhausted trying to help someone who won't help themselves.

I just don't know what to do.

Jerry, you've told stories about how you've had relationships that you ended long after you should have.

I fear that I might be in a similar position.

Or do you see a way for us to come back together to repair this?

How can I figure out what I want and what I need to do?

Everyone sitting here, yeah.