Danette

So you got to feel it out.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

But moving on to our last one.

Hi, Jerry and FKS crew.

Longtime fan of FKS and THT.

I've taken so much of your lessons, stories, and advice to improve myself and my relationships over the years.

But this time, I could use some more direct advice from my favorite internet dad, as my relationship with my own father is dead in the water, and I have no other living relatives to ask for guidance.

I, 31 female, have been with my boyfriend, 34 male, for almost 13 years.

Quick background.

We've been together since I started college, and we instantly hit it off.

The moment we looked into each other's eyes, we both felt this otherworldly spark that drew us together.

It was pure magic.

Since then, we've been through so many ups and downs together.

He supported me through the passing of my mother and all of my dad's grieving antics after.

Although we've had times where he has broken my trust, we mended it and moved forward together.

I thought for so long that we were soulmates, but over the past year or so I've been feeling myself slowly pull away and growing distant.

He has been stagnant in life, especially career-wise.

About six months ago, he quit his apprenticeship in becoming an auto technician because he felt he was unable to finish the required lessons by the deadline, which was at the end of the month at the time.

Frankly, he was unmotivated because he didn't love his job, and he hasn't found a new one since.