Danette

Okay.

Keep us posted, but I'm going to be thinking about this one for a while.

We're going to be on number two.

Number two.

Hi, Dad, and any other guests who may be on the show.

I've been here since the early days of THD and the beginning of Father Knows, and I've listened to every episode.

I just finished listening to the Big Hurdles episode, and it really resonated with me.

I had written in before, a few weeks ago, when I, 32 female, had freshly broken up with my fiancé, 34 male, and the father of my almost two-year-old daughter.

At the time of me writing in, it hasn't been read yet, which is fine.

I think I wrote in when it was all too raw, and it included a lot of information that probably didn't make sense.

I now feel more clarity on what I really need advice on.

In the episode, you talked about being friends with your exes, but I don't know how to do that right now.

We can't have a break in contact because we share a daughter, and we are still living in the same house while he figures out his next move.

It's been about a month.

I'm playing nice so there is no shouting, pointed comments, or anything like that from either of us, but I feel like I am overflowing and barely keeping a lid on my frustration and resentment.

It mostly comes out at night because my daughter isn't a great sleeper.

Exhaustion and sleep deprivation are big triggers for me.

I often find myself crying in the dark while holding her.

When she's finally asleep, I come out and act like everything is fine when it isn't.

I'm angry that we're in this situation, that he made me fall out of love with him by not helping me with our daughter.