Danette

I feel like it's his fault our daughter won't grow up with two parents in the same house who are happy and in love.

I didn't want this for my daughter.

She's the most beautiful little girl and deserves the world.

How do I let go of my resentment?

I feel like I need him to leave so I can have space to grieve the relationship, but he has nowhere else to go.

He doesn't have savings, his family is not so great, to say the least, and he doesn't really have any friends.

My ideal outcome is for my daughter to have the best version of me as her mom.

I need to be regulated and happy and calm for her sake so that I can be a good mom for her.

Additional info, I have my doubts that my ex is going to stay involved in our daughter's life long term, so I'm not too worried about having to co-parent with him.

When I asked about a custody schedule, he said every second weekend and that he didn't want any overnights.

Selfishly, I thought, thank God.

I don't want to give up time with my daughter.

I also felt so disappointed for her that he's comfortable with being so checked out of her life.

Any advice is appreciated.

Yeah.

Yeah, that will eat at you.

Absolutely.

And you only know what you know.

I think a lot of people that I've come across lately have been like, oh, I wish that wasn't my child's dad.

You loved this person.