Danette

You had a kid together.

You have a beautiful daughter who will be so much happier, healthier, and better off with her parents separated than trying to make an unhealthy relationship work.

And I fully believe that I growing up was so appreciative of the fact that my bio dad was not in my household.

And I got my dad, Jerry, because my mom didn't try to make that work.

So I wouldn't put that pressure on you and sadness or resentment that like, oh, she's not going to grow up in a home with two parents that love each other.

No, she will.

And she has you.

Like, don't sell yourself short.

I think some therapy would be good.

Get some distance.

Living in the same house is so hard and toxic.

And once you have some separation and you can breathe and...

have that closure, in a sense, by truly separating and moving out.

Oh my gosh, you're gonna just... The minute you have your space back and you can go cry in your room and decompress and not have to walk on eggshells around him and you are going to feel so much better, but...

Heal.

Focus on yourself and healing.

Start journaling.

Start writing your feelings out and finding outlets where, I don't know, whether it's a rage room or breaking plates and putting them together in some mosaic.

I don't know.

Whatever you want to do that feels cathartic and healing, start doing it.