Daniel Coyle

And at one of those moments, the boss, this very stern man, his name was Luis Urzúa, steps to the center of the circle, takes off his white helmet and says, there are no bosses and there are no employees anymore.

And whoa, that changes things, right?

So they're switching out of this kind of fix it, solve it mentality that we're always in.

It's an attentional style, really, is what it is.

It's an attentional mode that we're in, where we're paying attention, we're seeing the world as a problem that can be solved.

And then what they're doing in that moment is surrendering to the situation and saying they're widening their attention.

They're not trying to fix anything.

and they're connecting to something bigger than themselves.

And it's a pause, like nothing seems to happen.

And yet it's where everything important happens.

It's probably a moment like that where your astronaut friend in the Italian

created a bond, right?

Those relational moments of responsive connectedness where you stop and you stop seeing the other person as something you can control or some situation you need to fix.

And you genuinely inhabit the mystery of what are we doing here?

What value do I see?

What value can we add to each other?

Where do we want to go?

What do we want this to look like?

How do we want to be together?

Those are really simple, powerful questions.