Daniel Coyle

It's funny.

I was, another walk of my life, I worked with major league baseball teams and we were interviewing a new manager

candidates for a new manager.

And one of the questions that came up during the conversation was, what do you do when you're isolated, alone?

It's lonely at the top.

What do you do?

And what this candidate said was, I just, I go inside out.

I look for somebody I can help.

And it just takes 10 seconds to make that little reversal where he goes and picks up towels on the clubhouse floor, whatever he does, looks for somebody to help.

And I think that speaks to the way that we're built.

We're not trying to always fix, optimize, maximize everything.

We're not looking to automate things and be the best pinball ball.

What we're looking to do many times is to animate them with a sense of aliveness and connection and relationship and meaning.

And that was a question that set me out writing this book is what places are really good at doing that?

We know what happens on the mountaintops of career, mountaintops of performance, but what's happening in the valleys where there are these moments of cultivation, these meaningful connections, and where there is the thing that really defines flourishing is joyful, meaningful growth that is shared.

that is shared.

Nobody can do it alone.

You can't do it alone, but you can do it.

We need other people to bring out the best versions of ourselves.

And so that's what I've found over and over again in those little moments that aren't scripted and they're not games and you can't write an instruction manual for them, but