Daniel Coyle

in-person music festivals, for example, because they're feeling something that is not, they're switching out of that narrow mode of being, I'm gonna be useful, I'm gonna control my surroundings into something that's much more receptive, responsive, resonant, where, and that's how we feel healthy.

That's our model for attentional health.

You know, we know,

With nutrition, if you just eat sugars and carbs, you can do that, but you don't feel good.

And attentionally, we are kind of in that same space where there are a lot of big companies that love to feed us this narrow bore, narrow focus attention.

And the healthy thing you can do and the healthy thing that communities allow you to do is to slip out of that and slip into that wider mode that we're pre-wired to do.

Here's three moves that I really like.

I mean, you can think of them, you know, the world is, in the end...

It looks like a game.

The world really looks like a game, like you should learn how to win the game.

But in fact, that's an illusion.

In fact, the world in your life is more like a garden.

It depends on relationships.

All the studies will show out that we've got, if you want to have a happy, fulfilled life, it is about relationships.

And so here are three kind of gardening moves that help people.

cultivate that wider attention and that sense of community the first is called the yellow door you know we go most of us go through life looking for green doors which mean go and red doors which indicate you should stop we're always scanning for those but life becomes a lot deeper and richer when you look for a yellow door something that appears maybe out of the corner of your eye where it's an opportunity to try something new it's a new conversation it's a topic or a space or a

a group that you haven't connected with before so looking for those that would be the first thing that i would say and um and to look for those means to to do what i like i don't know how to it's abs yeah it's abstract isn't it right no um i guess for me what it comes down to is when you sense or sometimes receive an invitation that you have an instinct to say no to

It happened for me.

I had a friend a couple of years ago invite me to go indoor climbing.

I don't like climbing.