Daniel Goleman

So we can't say that it's less now or more now.

But as you pointed out, and Sonia, the fact that kids are not really getting the lessons they should have in emotional intelligence suggests that in 20 years we'll see a decline, or 10 years.

Well, you know, anger...

is the most righteous emotion.

Like, I'm right, this other guy's wrong.

And that fuels the kind of argument that we typically have.

But if one of you is more emotionally intelligent, you'll see what's going on and deescalate.

And in fact, we're just now putting together a program for police because being able to handle those emotions is crucial for anyone who's in that role.

and it means that you have to what you need self-awareness you need to recognize what's happening to you and then you need to know what to do about it interesting so you're working with the the police force right now to help them because there's a lot of anger going on so that they're needing to to handle that at a well you know the job by its very nature

involves dealing with people who are angry, who are upset.

One of the worst situations for police is a marital dispute that they're called in for because tempers are really flaring then.

And the question is, can you stay calm?

Can you quiet, calm things down?

Which is what's desperately needed in that situation.

And it starts with yourself.

Can you stay calm in that situation?

Or in any situation.

So I think that helping police know what's going on with them emotionally and know what to do about it helps us all, frankly.

I don't really like to comment on political figures, but I think the question answers itself.

I was talking to a guy who's a marital couples therapist, and he said, every marriage starts with an idealization of the other.