Daniel Goleman
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
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You see the great things about your partner.
He's so this, she's so that.
You ignore the other things, even if you see them.
But then he said it becomes a negotiation.
Because you find out, oh, well, my partner isn't exactly who I thought she was or who I thought he was.
And now we need to talk things over.
And it's in knowing how to negotiate that you either get into the argument, the marital argument, or you figure it out together.
And none of us, my mother was a social worker.
And she taught family life education, it was called, in a college.
She said, you know, people should really have to take an exam to get married.
Yeah.
Totally.
And it would be about how well you can negotiate with your partner.
It never happened, of course.
Well, the question is, you know, when you're really angry, when you're really pissed off at someone, do you know it?
Yeah.
Do you know what to do?
Can you calm yourself?
Essentially, it has that in various ways.
Regulating takes two paths.