Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
And, you know, you see it like years later, wherever they are, as seen through the eyes, by the way, of other people, which is very important because we can fool ourselves.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
Well, Simon, I don't know about your gut, and I don't know about my gut, but we do get those feelings, and they may or they may not be true.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
So one argument is that the mind...
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
holds more information than it tells us consciously.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
That is, that we know more than we realize.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
And that gut feeling may be an intuition that you should act on because it's based on really good information.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
On the other hand, that gut feeling may be based on some bias or some fear or some anxiety.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
And so you shouldn't necessarily trust it.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
I think self-awareness may be important here in trying to distinguish
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
Well, should I trust my gut or should I not?
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
If you think you're basing it on good data, good information, go ahead.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
A lot of entrepreneurs, for example, will swear by gut feeling.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
And a lot of businesses go belly up because the entrepreneur's gut feeling wasn't right.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
So it can go either way.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
So one kind of leader is a very inspiring leader who can speak from the heart to the heart.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
who really moves people because he's able to sense not just what he believes or she believes, but what other people will be moved by and articulate it that way.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
These are very powerful kinds of leaders.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
Another kind of leader, very different style, is command and control leader.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
Someone who says, do it my way, I'm the boss.
Sonia and Simon
The #1 Skill Nobody Taught You | Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence
Mm-hmm.