Darby Saxbe

He does a lot around the house and he was raised in a really traditional family.

Like his mom was a stay-at-home mom.

His dad worked a lot and he like, I guess, had the good or ill fortune to marry someone who was really career oriented.

Yeah.

So we've kind of had to figure out our own dynamic, which has taken time.

But I would say like he does as much, if not more with the kids as I do, which is really great.

Yeah, these are all such great questions.

I actually, in the book, I interview a guy that did skin-to-skin.

And there is research on men doing skin-to-skin.

So like a couple different studies looked at like after mom has a C-section, she can't always do a skin-to-skin because she has to get repaired.

Yeah.

And so a few different research teams have tried doing it with dad.

Yeah.

And the baby's heart rate regulates better.

The baby's temperature becomes better regulated.

All of the benefits of skin to skin with mom emerge when babies do it with dads.

It's also, I think, like a way that dads, like we talked about dads feeling left out a lot of the time after birth because there's less for them to do.

It's a way that dads can feel like they're really contributing, like they're providing this like warm body that the baby needs and is gravitating to.

So it's a totally great thing to do after birth or in the early months.

And oxytocin, it's like one of those hormones that the research is kind of all over the place on.