Dave Evans
speaker
2,777 appearances
6 recordings
4 series
first heard Dec 2024
last heard 6 Jul
Dave Evans’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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So I want to be fully engaged.
So I'm really thinking about your listener questions.
I want to be detached.
And those two things together allow me to be more fully alive in the moment.
And that full aliveness allows me to feel more like a person.
And feeling more like a person is pretty meaningful.
Yes, and I'm smiling because I'm very impressed.
Kaushal has really thoughtfully observed himself and asked an interesting question.
He's catching himself realizing, oh my goodness, moment by moment, I notice, am I in this moment and I'm loving it because I'm doing it well, or...
Am I enjoying it?
Am I loving it?
Because it's intrinsically valuable to me and I love this thing.
So what he has pointed out is we recently had this conversation with Bob Waldinger at Harvard, the last project leader of the longest running behavioral study of mankind, the Harvard Adult Study, reminded us that if you live all through extrinsic motivations, outside in, curing cancer, making the money, making partner, whether it's a selfish or a selfless goal, it's still outside in.
And you lose track of the intrinsic motivators of love, compassion, joy, things for their own intrinsic sake.
And you do too much extrinsic and too little intrinsic, you start losing over time the capacity to even notice and catch the signals of the experience of the intrinsic experience.
So what Kaushal is catching himself in is, oh my goodness, I'm mostly extrinsically motivated.
So the first thing is be forgiving.
If I'm a becoming...
I'm going to get better tomorrow, which means by tomorrow I will look back and say I was worse today.
That's okay.
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