Dave Evans

Because reality is the only place things actually work.

Radical acceptance is literally as best you possibly can to eliminate any vestige of resistance that this is in fact exactly the way things currently are.

Hmm.

It's all about this what I had in mind thing.

You know, let's go back to Allison.

We talked about in the previous episode, you know, here's I'm talking to a group of accountants and here's this lovely middle-aged woman and she's reasonably happily married and got two reasonably decent kids and a reasonably paid off car, a small business working with a lot of other small businesses, except she's a little bit bored to tears and mostly just not feeling it.

And what did I do wrong?

Well, she didn't do anything wrong.

I said, look, why did you pick accounting?

Well, you know, because it's predictable and I really like having the right answer.

I like knowing I've done the right thing well.

I go, great.

So you're in a very uncreative business because you like stability.

And why did you pick small businesses, you know, as your clients?

Well, you know, they're they're cash operated businesses and they pay in cash, you know, and I don't want to be in debt.

And and I understand their business because they're kind of like me.

So I think I understand that, you know, that's something I can really handle pretty well.

So, oh, so you don't want to go outside your comfort zone because you really like being in your comfort zone.

That's great.

You know, and so we ended up describing that she got exactly what she wanted.