Dave Plummer

Your frontal cortex shuts down to an extent, I think, so you don't have the benefit of decision-making and filtering.

You're very reptilian brain in that state.

And it's really a panic state.

And so it's a panic and a fight or flight response to not being able to tolerate the current reality.

And perhaps it's been so frustrating or you've been so randomized or you had a bad travel day or an argument at work or whatever.

It's added up to the point that something has now triggered you and your brain loses its ability to adequately moderate your behavior.

You know, I've been married 31 years and together for 37.

So a long history there.

And I think our first indication that we knew we were very different was we were sitting in the car one night in front of the house at dark and across the street, there's kind of a nice house that has these big brick pillars that are linked by like anchor chains and it forms a fence around the yard.

And I'm looking at these things because they're about two feet square and I got a capstone and I'm like, no wonder if they're hollow or they backfill, they fill with concrete or what?

And my now wife looks at me and she's like, what's wrong with you?

Why do you have a place in your head that cares about that?

Yeah.

And we just knew in the moment that I was passionately involved in caring and she was passionately involved in why would you even worry about that kind of thing?

We knew we were very different.

But, uh, I was never good with people caring.

I don't get it when people like me, I guess.

And my son is the same way, because they all don't fall very far from the tree.

And I got him a T-shirt that says, if you're hitting on me, please let me know and be specific because I'm clueless.

And it's very similar for me.