David Deida

all they know is what they see in their friends or what they did in the past, which is based on these conditionings from their past, their mammalian conditioning, their personal past, their childhood traumas.

And those just are no longer an interesting way to have sex.

So a lot of men go, you know, I'm losing my sexual desire.

I need to get it back.

Whereas, as I describe in the book, there's

What turns you on now is not as much, you know, what turned you on before, lingerie and porn or whatever.

But a partner, I'll say woman, it could be any sex, but a partner's actual love, her devotion, her surrender.

So when you feel someone's devotion to love,

or surrender, opening their body to love, that brings a part of you to the four that could become sex from zero.

Like you're rested at zero.

You're not pushing.

But from that place comes a polarity or sexual attraction.

There's a lot in the book about that.

We can unpack it more now if you want.

stillness is one side of the polarity the other side is fullness or energy and that's you know i use the word masculine and feminine it's problematic for some people but the way i'm using that word is that the masculine is that unchanging stillness that we can all experience and the feminine is everything that moves is life force is energy um it's

is in fullness to the emptiness.

And so as you rest in emptiness through polarity, you tend to attract fullness.

So if in a heterosexual relationship, you will tend to attract to you women who are

very active, they like to talk, they like to socialize.

Just as you're feeling, I don't want to talk, I don't want to socialize.