David Deida

the tensions and relaxations in your partner's body, to feel the breath moving in and out of your partner's body, to feel the emotions moving through your partner, rather than your attention locked into your own sexual sensations.

So one would just be to learn to liberate their attention to at least feel her more than yourself.

another thing to do is to create a kind of resonance so often breathing with your partner sexually so when she inhales you inhale and she exhales you exhale and then of course you might need to take catch up breaths because you don't have the same metabolism as your partner but creating a kind of resonance of breath helps deepen sex beyond the merely physical going deeper in the body so

You know, some men only play on the surface of the woman's body.

They kiss her lips.

Do you want me to comment on that?

No, no, no.

Well, that's actually true.

I mean, a lot of men just at the physical level have an impulse to go deep.

They want to press—

you know, in terms of actual sex, they want to press their sexual organ deep inside a woman.

The feeling of going deep is the essential masculine urge, going deep into her, going deep into self, going deep into being.

So that sense of wanting to go deep is a kind of native expression of the masculine.

It takes quite a while for the stability of your being to infiltrate through the patterns of your body-mind.

So we have all kinds of patterns in our body-mind.

We have traumas.

We might feel aggressive because of the way whatever our father treated us.

We might feel aggressive because we're mammals and we've inherited a certain degree of aggression.

Well, as we rest as being animals,

more and more as we become stable as recognizing ourselves as that simple awareness or presence those patterns become integrated naturally if you will because they're not tension isn't being added to them you're not rewinding them tighter and tighter you're letting them uncoil in the space of your awareness now some people