David Kavanagh

It's called voyeurism.

So, you know, that's an illegal act and you can be, you know, charged for that.

But yet we facilitate people watching pornography, which is just sex on screen.

So, again, society has double standards around that.

But the average single man doesn't want to be telling his partner that he watches pornography regularly.

Because he's full of guilt and shame.

I don't think men think it's a good idea, really, deep down.

I don't think men believe this is a positive aspect of their lives.

Not really.

I think there's more of a pressure on younger couples to believe that pornography is helpful or is in some way educational or is in some way just a form of entertainment.

I think there's a societal norm around that.

But the reality is

Like the women that I'm meeting that are in their early 20s, whose partners, you know, are watching pornography, they're devastated.

They are shocked.

They are traumatized to know that he is being aroused by looking at other women.

It's a terrible form of betrayal.

It damages their self-esteem.

It destroys their relationship.

And it makes communication between them around sexual intimacy almost impossible because there's this elephant in the room of why is he doing this?

Like, am I not good enough?