David Kavanagh

Are we as a couple not good enough in terms of physical intimacy that he needs to get this arousal elsewhere?

It's an awful thing.

So I don't know that there are that many positives to watching pornography.

But yeah, younger couples, I think you're just under more pressure to believe it's normal.

I think they have their place.

I mean, I don't follow them, so I don't want to be speaking out of turn, but I think they can be educational to a certain extent.

But then you have to remember, these are platforms and these are influencers are looking for likes and looking for as much attention grabbing headlines as possible because that's how the algorithms work.

So I think we need to take their advice or their suggestions a little bit more with a pinch of salt than we do as a fact that we should be practicing within our relationships.

Because a lot of times men are blindsided when their partners do stuff or ask questions or kind of set them up for little traps to see if they're committed to them or not because they've watched a TikTok reel and they're following an influencer's ideas and suggestions.

Like us guys wouldn't have a clue what's going on.

So then if we get hit with the, oh, you don't really love me because you didn't do X, Y and Z. Sorry, what's just happened here?

Like that stuff is very unhelpful in fairness.

Yeah, I think it's unhelpful in that regard, but like you kind of have to have a good peer group of friends within which to bounce your ideas off as well.

I think that's a really important piece that might be missing from, you know, the online discourse because influencers don't really suggest, as far as I can see, they don't suggest that people, that their followers

should touch base with their own friends and just check in with, like, what do your parents think?

What do your family and friends, you know, family and your, what do your social groups think of these ideas?

It's all about follow my concept, follow my suggestions and then you'll be, you know, you'll be in a better relationship.

Whereas I think just talk to your friends, like, is this a good idea?

Do you guys do this?

Because the wisdom of the crowd, I think, is a very important aspect in terms of determining what is healthy in relationships, not just what's online.