David Kessler

Everyone stops crying.

They may cry again, but everyone stops.

Now,

This idea that we think, because sometimes I'll work with vets who tell me, you know, this pain of my, you know, best friend dying in war or whatever it is, you know, is a badge of honor.

I'll go, yeah, pain's not a badge of honor.

Love is.

So I say to people, when they say, I...

need to hold on to the pain or i'll lose them i say to them let me tell you this when you release the pain in your own way in your own time you will be connected only in love when you release the pain the love will be there i want to tell you a story around this in the pandemic

Maybe week two, a friend of mine, practical griever, comes over.

We're going to take a walk six feet apart in the middle of the street.

We're walking.

A young woman walks up to me, probably 20 years old in tears, one of my neighbors.

And she goes, aren't you the grief person?

And I went, yeah.

And she goes, my wedding's just been postponed and she's in tears.

And she said, I don't know how I'm going to make it.

She's crying and she's devastated.

And I talked to her and I listened and I talked about it.

And after a few minutes, after we talked, she thanked me and she said, can we talk again?

And I said, sure.